What we are asking is, “Is it possible to have a problem-free relationship?” The answer is, “Of course, as soon as we remove the problem.” The “problem” as you may already know is the mind’s perception of the relationship. Your mind creates an image of what you are from memory. Relying on memory for our sense of “me” we divide the world into friend and foe, into things that can help “me” and things that are a threat to maintaining...
How Does Perception Affect Your Relationship? (Part I/8)
If it is true that one man’s perfect is another man’s pain then perfection is a product of perception. And perception is affected by our level of common consciousness, our ability to observe clearly the perfection of this moment. That means that there are an infinite number of perceptions of perfection, as many as there are perceivers. So, what to do? Do you remember the two simple rules that I use to guide my life? (Read QE Blog: The Rule...
You Can’t Grow in Unbounded Love
Why? Why can't we maintain the intensity of those early days of romantic love? (The Romantic Relationship) Because romantic love is conditional love and we humans were built for a much grander adventure. Even the more mature love that builds between two people over a lifetime is largely dependent on conditions. In the beginning of such a relationship we may feel that if we are honest and open with the other person. We feel that if we work together we...
Walk a Mile in My Shoes
Almost assuredly the most prominent stumbling block in a relationship is miscommunication. It insidiously worms its way into every level of our dealings with others despite our most sincere and concerted efforts to eliminate it. Why, despite our every exertion to the contrary, does miscommunication continue to thrive? Let’s start with you, the center of creation, at least from your individual perspective. While you can “walk a mile in another man’s shoes” it is still you who is walking in...
